It makes sense if you think trauma means something went wrong in your brain — but the truth is, your brain is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do. In this episode, Dr. Jess explains how trauma works, why neurodivergent people are more vulnerable to it, and why it’s not your fault if you’re still carrying what never should’ve happened.

Most neurodivergent adults are carrying around labels that don’t really explain our problems and definitely aren’t helping us solve them — and isn’t that the point?  In this episode, Dr. Jess covers common misdiagnoses given to neurodivergent adults — Major Depressive Disorder, anxiety disorders, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and Borderline Personality Disorder — and explains why these labels feel like they fit, but actually keep us stuck in a losing battle of applying the wrong solutions to the wrong problems.

If you’re finally starting to feel like you’ve got a handle on your neurodivergence, but still can't figure out why you feel like an emotional tornado, that’s because the people who should know better usually don’t. In this episode, Dr. Jess reveals the connection between neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation, explains how almost all of us have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and why understanding RSD is probably what you’ve always needed to know you’re just fine — no matter what anyone says.

Whether or not you think of yourself as “disabled,” internalized ableism is alive and well in your subconscious — and it’s probably what’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, Dr. Jess explains how it develops, gets stronger, and sabotages neurodivergent adults with deeply embedded beliefs about our abilities and obligations — without us even knowing it!

As the current administration pushes to erase the histories, experiences, and rights of marginalized groups, many of us are feeling overwhelmed, powerless, and terrified — which is exactly what they want. In this episode, Dr. Jess exposes the ways we’ve been tricked into believing we’re “minorities” so we don’t recognize the truth: together, we are the majority — and it’s far easier to change our lives, and the systems that oppress us, than we’ve been led to believe.

Struggling to get things done doesn’t mean you’re lazy, undisciplined, or broken. In this episode, Dr. Jess spells out what makes task completion so challenging for neurodivergent people and what you need to know to stop fighting yourself and start finishing what matters by working with your neurodivergence — not against it.

None of the popular books, guidance, or advice feel like they fit for neurodivergent parents or parents of neurodivergent kids — and that’s okay! In this episode, Dr. Jess describes the real challenges of parenting as a neurodivergent adult, parenting neurodivergent kids, and doing both in a world built on neurotypical expectations. If you’ve ever wondered why “normal” parenting advice doesn’t work for your family, this one’s for you.

People may have called you out for making things happen the way you want them to, but their discomfort with what works for you isn’t your responsibility. In this episode, Dr. Jess explains the patterns behind neurodivergent adults being misunderstood as controlling or perfectionistic, how to tell the difference between self-protection and personal preference, and what it looks like to let go of patterns that may be costing you more than you realize.

Do you ever feel like you’re dropping every ball for no reason at all, and ask yourself, “What the hell is wrong with me?”, then go on a mad hunt to find THE answer — the one that will finally tell you what you need to know to “fix” yourself? In this episode, Dr. Jess reveals how overlapping factors — from neurodivergence to trauma responses to systemic inequity — shape how we function (or don’t), and why trying to find answers is what’s keeping us stuck.

What happens when the people in power use false information to justify policies to address what they think is wrong with us? In this episode, Dr. Jess dismantles RFK Jr.’s distorted rhetoric about neurodivergence, explains why framing neurodivergent lives as “tragedies” harms and endangers real people, and offers guidelines you can follow to manage your responses.

Connection isn’t just nice to have; it’s one of the strongest predictors of happiness, health, and success. But true connection is often hard to come by for neurodivergent adults. In this episode, Dr. Jess explains why authentic connection is so important and how neurodivergent adults can build real relationships with people who value and support us for who we are.

Do you ever feel like something inside you wants you to ‘Just Say No,’ and seems to push you to NOT do things — for no real reason? PDA is a real thing that that affects neurodivergent people’s follow through, but it’s not pathological.

The real solution to burnout isn’t another plan for being more productive or time-blocking rest; it’s finally understanding why nothing like that ever worked for you in the first place.

You weren’t born believing that the only way you can be happy is to change yourself. In this episode, Dr. Jess breaks down how you were misled to believe you had to meet one-size-fits-all standards, what it’s cost you, and why it’s time to stop paying.