If you’re late-diagnosed, misdiagnosed, burned out, or just done trying to “fix” yourself, you’re in the right place! In Try Easier, Not Harder, I call out the systems that failed you, break down what ADHD, autism, & other neurodevelopmental differences are really like for adults, and give you tools to unlearn the bullshit you were taught about who you’re supposed to be, unmask, and build a life that makes you happy. Watch for new posts every Thursday.
Stop Trying to Fix Yourself: How the Self-Improvement Industry Fails Neurodivergent People
If you’ve spent your life chasing self-improvement harder than anyone you know — but feeling like you can’t even catch up with people who aren’t trying at all — the problem isn’t you. In this episode, Dr. Jess exposes the ways mainstream self-improvement strategies trap neurodivergent adults in unwinnable wars against ourselves, and explains how real improvement comes from giving yourself permission to be who you are.
“Is It ADHD, Autism, Trauma, or Capitalism?” Yes!
Do you ever feel like you’re dropping every ball for no reason at all, and ask yourself, “What the hell is wrong with me?”, then go on a mad hunt to find THE answer — the one that will finally tell you what you need to know to “fix” yourself? In this episode, Dr. Jess reveals how overlapping factors — from neurodivergence to trauma responses to systemic inequity — shape how we function (or don’t), and why trying to find answers is what’s keeping us stuck.
We’re Not Their Problem to Solve: What RFK, Jr. Gets Dangerously Wrong About Neurodivergence
What happens when the people in power use false information to justify policies to address what they think is wrong with us? In this episode, Dr. Jess dismantles RFK Jr.’s distorted rhetoric about neurodivergence, explains why framing neurodivergent lives as “tragedies” harms and endangers real people, and offers guidelines you can follow to manage your responses.
You Can’t Connect If You Can’t Be Real; Supportive Relationships Start With Being Who You Are, Not Who You Think You Should Be
Connection isn’t just nice to have; it’s one of the strongest predictors of happiness, health, and success. But true connection is often hard to come by for neurodivergent adults. In this episode, Dr. Jess explains why authentic connection is so important and how neurodivergent adults can build real relationships with people who value and support us for who we are.
You Can’t Make Me! The Psychology Behind Neurodivergent Defiance and Control
Do you ever feel like something inside you wants you to ‘Just Say No,’ and seems to push you to NOT do things — for no real reason? PDA is a real thing that that affects neurodivergent people’s follow through, but it’s not pathological.
Brilliant, Burned Out, and Barely Hanging On: Make Your Life Easier Without Another “Proven” Method, Hack, or Checklist
The real solution to burnout isn’t another plan for being more productive or time-blocking rest; it’s finally understanding why nothing like that ever worked for you in the first place.
The Huge, Hidden Cost of Being Neurodivergent
You weren’t born believing that the only way you can be happy is to change yourself. In this episode, Dr. Jess breaks down how you were misled to believe you had to meet one-size-fits-all standards, what it’s cost you, and why it’s time to stop paying.